ABC's of Anger Control
A Taste of Honey
Many of my patients have found the following imagery technique valuable in helping
them express, release and overcome anger:
Imagine yourself sitting on the ground facing the person who you are angry with.
He or she is also sitting on the ground. From the bottom of your heart tell this
person how you are feeling and share all the nasty details. You don't need to be
polite. You can yell and scream. Notice if you're speaking in soft controlled tones.
If you are, let go of that style and really blow off some steam.
Now imagine that you have three buckets next to you. One is filled with water, one
with honey and one with rice. Which one would you like to pour over the other person?
Go ahead. Pick up that bucket and pour it all over him. Doesn't that feel good?
Has he learned his lesson or do you need to pour one of the other buckets? Pick up one
of the other buckets and empty that one on him. You may have something special in mind
that you'll want in that bucket. It's your bucket. Fill it with whatever you like, pour
it over him and feel yourself releasing anger as you do.
You can probably easily guess which bucket people love the most-the honey. People just
love to imagine pouring a bucket of honey over the person they're mad at. And they
almost always like pouring something else over the honey, such as rice, confetti,
feathers, pebbles, leaves.
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